Change your Future & Re-structure your relationship with yourself & your former partner

The Legal element of divorce is simple.

Divorce = the Legal dissolution of a marriage.

At LawVolution, we know that there is much that goes beyond the legal scope. Divorce is the end of a significant chapter in your life.

The thought of the loss of a partner, your children, property & all that you have worked so hard to grow can be terrifying.

Divorce may impact your Mind & Body

The loss of a partner & the uncertainty of your future will often result in stress, anxiety, depression, or grief. Your mental & your physical health can be impacted in a myriad of ways.

The Behavioral & Emotional impacts may include the following

• You may feel helpless, powerless & depressed

• You feel unsafe in the world, & can’t let go of your anxiety & fears.

• You may feel moody or irritable

• You may no longer be able to focus.

• You might try to cope in negative ways, such as drinking or risky behaviors.

• You may isolate yourself

• You may have suicidal or homicidal thoughts

The Physical impacts may include the following

• You sleep too much or can’t sleep at all. You may have nightmares. You are exhausted.

• You get sick more easily because your body is exhausted from the long-term flood of cortisol & other stress hormones.

• Headaches & general aches & pains

• Changes in appetite

• Sexual dysfunction

You need to be able to think clearly at what may be the worst time in your life. The divorce involves a lot of work & life-long decisions. You need to get & stay physically strong & healthy.

While divorce is hard on both your mind & body, having adequate support to manage your feelings & restructure your life divorce can become a positive opportunity to create a new future for yourself.

With the support of counselling & coaching to guide you through your divorce, you will have the resources to help you manage the breakup smoothly & to positively redefine your relationship with yourself, your ex spouse & your children.

At LawVolution we encourage you to choose the best process & to bring your Best Self to that Process!

CHOOSE YOUR ARENA

We encourage you, if possible to choose a non-adversarial divorce process such as Collaborative Divorce or Mediation. This puts you in control of the many decisions that need to be made. Litigation will increase your stress exponentially, so don’t choose that unless you really need someone else to make decisions for you.

CONNECT WITH OTHERS

Isolation is not healthy, especially during a traumatic time - make the connection & get some emotional support.

REBUILD & REPAIR YOURSELF

To rebuild your sense of identity as a WHOLE person - BOTH mind & body you can:

• Work with a Divorce or Life Coach. Find Clarity, Confidence and Focus.

• Work with therapists who specialize in trauma treatment, such as Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing (EMDR), & other counselling modalities. Feel to heal!

• Break Old Patterns. Try “Brain Training”! Brain training or neuro-feedback is a-technology that provides your brain with real-time feedback, micro-second by micro-second, allowing it to re-organize itself for optimal functioning—promoting overall mental, emotional, & physical well-being. Our partner Neurofeedback Victoria, offers brain training “to relieve suffering & aid personal transformation, one brain at a time”

• Mindfulness - Meditation & Yoga. Be present. Depression pulls us into the past, where we focus on things we cannot change. Anxiety pulls us into the future, where we focus on things we anticipate to be stressful. People who can stay present before & during stress are more resilient.

• Take action. Get connected – talk it out with a family member, friend, or professional. And take care of yourself – practice stress management techniques like getting exercise, learning breathing techniques, & getting a good night’s rest.

• Energy can’t be created or destroyed - only transferred - so why not some acupuncture. Find your flow!

• Shift your perspective. There is power in perception – the end of one thing is the start of another. You can choose to focus on what you don’t have any more or focus on what new possibilities await. This isn’t to downplay your situation’s seriousness, but it is particularly effective when processing it.

• Get clear on your values. Know your true motivation(s). Determine what matters most to you & ensure your actions rationally lead to your objectives. Remember that when a stressful situation arises. When there is congruency between people’s values & their lives, they are generally happier & more resilient in times of stress.

Life is ever evolving with challenges all along the way.

Whether it was illness & death due to political, social or environmental factors, humanity has faced uncertainty & instability.

It is these challenges in life where we discover our capacity to cope & that allow the opportunity to appreciate how strong & resilient we are.

Trauma doesn’t have to become part of our identity, but it can help define this resilience & our strength

Historically humans have survived due to their ability to change their mindset & behaviors as necessary. We were designed to adapt.

It goes without saying change can be extremely uncomfortable. A global pandemic as an example. This type of disruption to the social order was unimaginable. The world as we knew it has changed & yet we have adapted in a myriad of ways. This is not to down play the impact the pandemic has had on society, but rather to demonstrate our capacity to adapt & change.

We strive at LawVolution to provide you the resources & support you need to optimize your ability to adapt to your evolving family dynamic.

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